- "Hi my name is Wayne, I saw you from over there and I wanna be your friend".
- "Please you don't wanna JUST be my friend".
Was chillin with my cousin Malo and my Booskie(ugh ugh ... get money(insider)) yesterday and we were talking about a lot of random things; when the topic of cheating emotionally on your partner usually occurs when things aren't going where you want them to... so while in the relationship there is always that time when someone else approaches you without knowing(sometims) that you are going through a hard time in your relationship and they seem to want to be your friend... and we came to conclusion that a person never really wants to be JUST your friend... there is always some underlining factor that makes this person want to be your friend...
From the jump when we see this person its either "do you see him over there he's FINE"... "Damn shawty over then can"... "hmmm look at his dreads"... "Oh my god Becky look at her BUTT(lol)"... there is always always something that draws us to that person initially that makes us have the thought that we want to be their friend... but we all know there is something more behind it...
So the question is can two ppl really just be friends with no hidden agenda?...
I don't really think its possible, in every way you look at it there is ALWAYS a reason why you befriend that person of the opposite sex... even in situations where you are introduced to someone new, there is still a reason why after that first initial meeting/talk that you choose/want to become that persons friend...
We are all drawn to each other through our physical, mental, social, emotional, economical and spiritual stature... so there is always a reason, no matter what we may tell ourselves... we choose who we really want to get close to and be friends with!...
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LOL......Ok you do have a point there......
ReplyDeleteSo tight. I just wrote a good paragraph and this thing logged me off. Ahhhh! Anyways. When a SINGLE woman or man approaches the opposite sex its def most likely done with A HIDDEN AGENDA. We just dont want to admit it to ourselves lol. All that u say there figured you'd be aware of because you're very observant. Now about emotionally cheating. Woosh. Man. I think the percentage is much higher of indivduals EMOTIONALLY cheating on their spouse then actual CHEATING. When someone is going through a hard time ANY "what's wrong, are you ok" question draws that person to the one who asks. Its normal. Its what we do. As humans. We hate the way we feel about a situation and if we see someone that can SLIGHTLY lift or take some of the troubles away, WE DIVE IN. Whether it be a female or male, we dive. But anyways, enough said here. I just wish there was no "UNDERLINING FACTOR". I wish we were all bold enough to say, "hey, I think you're something interesting, let's kiss." LMAO. Im buggin. Good blog Ric.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is...no one wants to be completely isolated in a relationship or a friendship. Some people call having friends of the opposite sex that you speak to IN DEPTH while in a relationship a form of emotional cheating. However, when you speak to your same-sex friends is it not the same thing? I think the big issue that sets in, when the situation turns from having a confidant and someone to speak to and when that person starts making up for where your mate lacks.
ReplyDeleteI personally think that we all need friends...and that different friends serve different purposes in our lives. I think we're all driven my our aninal insticts to some extent so we can't help but to be attracted to some of the very people we call friends. However, the issue at hand is really about that persons or your own intentions within that friendship. If you're a cheater then by all means...you're going to cheat. But if you're someone who can exercise self control and take to befriending someone while you're in a relationship--do it and do it carefully. After all, you only ever REALLY know yourself and even then some people can't get that part down pact...but you have to remember that you'll never fully know that person and their intent.
Overall, this is really good! It raises a good question and I think its really all about people's perceptions and relationships!! But I must say emotional cheating is such a VAGUE thing...I don't really think you can quantify it! I think if in fact this "emotional cheating" is going on...its a segway into the REAL DEAL!!!